Too much Doing, not enough Being – A lesson from the Inner Child

My Heart said:

“Follow me”

I said:

“Do you know where you are going?”

Heart:

“No, but I know the one who knows The Way”

Today, this lady I hardly know but is always very nice, came to me and told me:

“I’m sorry if I’m being presumptuous but you look like a dancer.  Do you dance? Because you walk like you are a dancer .“ 

I said:

“I am not a professional dancer but I belly dance.  I have taken classes before and it is my number one hobby.”

So she told me about all these dancing shows and workshops coming up by the American Dance Festival in the month of June, right when I will have a break from work.  I thought it would be a great idea to check them out so she was kind enough to bring me the booklet with all the information about it. 

As I was looking through the pages, I was grabbed by the colors on the pages, the pictures of the dancers and the abundance of shows and workshops coming up and I said to myself:

“You mean I can be a real dancer?!?!”

I was so happy, I started planning my vacation and budget around it thinking The Universe must have aligned this opportunity for me. 

I had to stop and go back to do my work, then a few minutes later my Inner Child came to me and said:

“Pinocchio wants to tell you something”

Have you ever been in love?

Very deep past emotional memories from habitual behavior in our relationships can come back to haunt us in the new relationship we are trying to build.  Ask yourself this: Have you ever been truly loved? Have you truly loved?

If you look at yourself now, you can see how the signs of “aging” are showing, but if you sit quietly with your mind, would you notice any signs of maturing?  Look at the patterns you are repeating in your relationships, are they still the same patterns that the YOU from the past used to make or have you created new patterns of behavior based on the new person you have become?  The beliefs and habits of the YOU from the past got you in that relationship you ended.  So, why would the YOU from the past still choose the love partners for the YOU of the present?  As we release the relationship that is ending, we should also release the beliefs and habits that helped creating it so that instead of creating a similar one in the future.  We should instead, explore from our new point of experience and wisdom to create a new reality for our new relationship. 

Now, ask yourself this: Do you want to be happy or do you want to be in love? People are happy when things are going their way and according to their expectation.  If things are going your way then you are being pleased, which means someone else is doing the pleasing.  But, what happens when that other person stops pleasing?  Being happy is not being in love.  Being in love means letting yourself feel and explore all the range of emotions that you as a human being are capable of, from one end to the other.  You let yourself be joyful as well as sad, compassionate as well as angry, passionate as well as depressed.  You can empower as well as blame, forgive and repent.  You loose yourself in lust as well as in tenderness and innocence.  You FEEL.  You aren’t just Happy, you FEEL Happy, plus all the other emotions, after all they all come from the same source: YOU.  Explore YOU, know how it FEELS when your love-partner is close and you know how it FEEL when your love-partner is gone and everything in between.  Put mindfulness in the feeling of your whole being and find out for yourself.

When you love as a human, you rejoice in each others happiness, you desire with all your heart to bring relief to each others torments, you feel tranquility in each others presence and you feel sadness for each others absence.  Human love is ENGAGED emotions.  Feel it!