Fear and the door mat…. A love story

7/10/2015

When you intend to be an open door but people miss to see the entrance and all they see is a door mat, it does not mean you are a door mat.  It means their eye sight won’t see beyond the door mat.  It has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them.  There is a Rumi quote that says “Why do you stay in prison when the door is wide open?”  The reason is the same; over and over again…Fear.  Fear has many forms and disguises.  Nobody wants to be afraid and many don’t even think that their feeling is fear.  They may say they are confused, angry, lonely, uninterested, etc.  The process of the translation from energy to a feeling is tricky.  It’s like seeing a magician pouring milk into a hat and pulling out a rabbit.  Completely not related or expected.  The truth is that fear not also disguises itself and lies to you but it also keeps you BLIND, and therefore makes you miss on many wonderful opportunities even when they are right in front of you. 

Now, to continue, I am going to explain to you fear in a different way.  Fear, does not mean to be afraid or terrorized.  As humans, in this material world, we were created with different elements such as our organs, senses, cognition, etc, and all of them are important for us to thrive…. Even fear.  The reason we push fear away is because we do not know how to use it effectively.  Fear does not feel good to us so we tend to push away everything that does not feel good, therefore we miss the chance of exploring fear as a tool of advancement for our life.  Yes! Fear can be a tool for advancement in your life, no typos here.

Inner Child, Outer Adult

Healing Deep Wounds and Turning Yourself Inside Out

From Lecture at Oasis in Carr Mill

June 10, 2015

So, who here has hurtful memories from childhood? Please raise your hand

·      How many of you have worked on healing those wounds?

o   By forgiving or trying to forgive? Or By forgetting or trying to forget?

o   Which one, are you forgiving or are you forgetting?

·      When I say: “Lets Erase the wound”. How many of you resonate with this solution?

·      Now, How many of you have tried to “Own” your wound?  By Owning the wound, I mean acknowledging what happened and Accepting that whatever happened Caused a Wound that became a source of pain, sorrow, anger, fear…  A Wound that kept us Limited or Scared to Move Forward.

·      Who wants to OWN this, right? But you have to own it in order to heal it.  You may be able to erase a scar, but no an open wound.  The first step towards healing is to be honest with ourselves.  Take ownership of that would and work on healing it.

·      Have you heard the saying “Times Heals”?

·      Have you heard the doctrine that “Time is an Illusion”?

·      Which one do you think is true?

·      Both?

o   If time is an illusion then how can it heal?

o   Is pain also an illusion?... No, that cannot be true, right? Because it feels so real!

o   Time also feels so real… Don’t you feel yourself getting older?