Very deep past emotional memories from habitual behavior in
our relationships can come back to haunt us in the new relationship we are
trying to build. Ask yourself this: Have
you ever been truly loved? Have you truly loved?
If you look at yourself now, you can see how the signs of
“aging” are showing, but if you sit quietly with your mind, would you notice
any signs of maturing? Look at the
patterns you are repeating in your relationships, are they still the same patterns
that the YOU from the past used to make or have you created new patterns of behavior
based on the new person you have become?
The beliefs and habits of the YOU from the past got you in that
relationship you ended. So, why would
the YOU from the past still choose the love partners for the YOU of the
present? As we release the relationship that is ending, we should also release the beliefs and habits that helped creating it so that instead of creating a similar one in the future. We should instead, explore from our new point of experience and wisdom to create a new reality for our new relationship.
Now, ask yourself this: Do you want to be happy or do you
want to be in love? People are happy when things are going their way and
according to their expectation. If
things are going your way then you are being pleased, which means someone else
is doing the pleasing. But, what happens
when that other person stops pleasing?
Being happy is not being in love.
Being in love means letting yourself feel and explore all the range of
emotions that you as a human being are capable of, from one end to the
other. You let yourself be joyful as
well as sad, compassionate as well as angry, passionate as well as
depressed. You can empower as well as
blame, forgive and repent. You loose yourself
in lust as well as in tenderness and innocence.
You FEEL. You aren’t just Happy,
you FEEL Happy, plus all the other emotions, after all they all come from the
same source: YOU. Explore YOU, know how
it FEELS when your love-partner is close and you know how it FEEL when your
love-partner is gone and everything in between.
Put mindfulness in the feeling of your whole being and find out for
yourself.
When you love as a human, you rejoice in each others
happiness, you desire with all your heart to bring relief to each others
torments, you feel tranquility in each others presence and you feel sadness
for each others absence. Human love is
ENGAGED emotions. Feel it!